Discernment Counseling

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What is discernment counseling?

  • Discernment counseling is for couples on the brink of divorce
  • If you or your spouse are considering divorce but are not completely sure that’s the best path, you are in a tough spot. If so, Discernment Counseling is designed for you. It’s a chance to slow down, take a breath, and look at your options for your marriage.
If you want something you never had, you have to do something you’ve never done.
–Thomas Jefferson
  • Discernment Counseling is a new way of helping couples where one person is “leaning out” of the relationship—and not sure that regular marriage counseling would help–and the other is “leaning in” —that is, interested in rebuilding the marriage. Or it may be that both of you are confused which way to go. I will help you decide whether to try to restore your marriage to health, move toward divorce, or take a time out and decide later. The goal is for you to gain clarity and confidence about a direction, based on a deeper understanding of your relationship and its possibilities for the future.
  • The goal is not to solve your marital problems but to see if they are solvable. You will each be treated with compassion and respect no matter how you are feeling about your marriage at the moment. No bad guys and good guys. You will come in as a couple but the most important work occurs in the one-to-one conversations. Why? Because you are starting out in different places with different perspectives.
  • I respect your reasons for divorce while trying to open up the possibility of restoring the marriage to health. I emphasize the importance of each of you seeing your own contributions to the problems and the possible solutions. This will be useful in future relationships even if this one ultimately ends.
Discernment Counselor Jonna Cohen

Number of Sessions: Discernment counseling consists of 1-5 counseling sessions. The first session is usually two hours and the subsequent ones are 1.5 – 2 hours.

Discernment Counseling is not suited for situations when one spouse has already made a final decision to divorce when one spouse is coercing the other to participate of if there is danger of domestic violence.

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